Unprocessed memories surprise us via tearful, anxious, or aggressive outbursts. Here’s why – memories are like star constellations linking the past and present together. Unprocessed memories have muddled timelines.
We explain why…
Memories are patterns of inter-connected neurons in the brain that represent associated [behavioural] action over a period of time. For example, one ‘action’ could be that you keep going, and going, and going, until you collapse asleep with exhaustion.
These ‘actions’ connect to an experience in your life which demanded an emergency response from you (in this example, the appropriate re-action was to keep going, and going, and going until exhaustion).
Time is a key thing to note here
At that time, the behavioural response was appropriate and now it isn’t. If you’re suffering from on-going stressful symptoms today, something is reminding your brain of a particular memory. Your brain then calls upon an old (and associated) ‘safety’ response that it thinks will help you. The logic being that it did then so it will today. Now however, the response is outdated, unwanted even, and so you ignore it. But by ignoring it you allow it to come back stronger and ultimately you end up feeling worse.
Remember your body is designed to heal, and help you live safely and happily. Listen to it
Uncomfortable emotions and pain are best understood as messengers telling you that something isn’t right. If you attend to discomfort, there’s often ‘a mental message’ that comes with it. Listen to the message, it may remind you of a past event or ‘tell you’ to stop what you’re doing now. The more you listen and act ‘respectfully’ towards yourself the sooner these emotions will settle. This becomes clear on the programme